Worried About Someone’s
Drug or Alcohol use?

Sometimes, the best thing you can do is just listen. Make sure your friend or family member feels safe and not judged. Let them talk without interrupting. This helps them feel cared for and builds trust.

It’s normal to want to help by giving advice. But it’s important to let them make their own decisions. This is their journey, and they need to feel in control. You can offer help and information, but let them decide when they’re ready to take the next step.

Getting better from substance use takes time. There might be ups and downs. Everyone moves at their own speed. Being patient and staying by their side really helps.

Try to see things from their point of view. Let them know their feelings are real and important. Just saying “I understand how you feel” without judging can help them feel safe and supported.

Supporting someone with substance use can be challenging and emotionally draining. It’s important to look after your own wellbeing too. You don’t have to do it alone; there are services available to support you.

Caring for someone who is struggling with substance use can take a toll over time. It’s essential to recognise when it’s affecting your own emotional health.

First and foremost, prioritise your own wellbeing. If you’re going to be a source of strength for someone else, you need to know where your own strength comes from. This might be through connecting with others, engaging in hobbies, or simply allowing yourself to step back when needed.

Secondly, know your limits. If you reach a point where the emotional burden becomes too heavy, that’s okay. It’s not a failure; it’s a sign that you need support too. Reach out to the services that are here to help you. You deserve care just as much as the person you’re supporting.

Naloxone is a medicine that can save someone’s life if they take too much of an opioid drug. If someone you care about uses opioids, learning how to use Naloxone could help in an emergency. We offer free training and kits. Visit our Staying Safe page to find out more.

Talking about substance use can be tricky, but it’s important. Here are some tips:

Pick a good time and place: Choose somewhere quiet and calm.

Be gentle: Start by saying something like, “I’m worried and I’d like to talk.”

Listen carefully: Let them speak without interrupting. Ask open questions like, “How do you feel when you use substances?”

Work together: Ask, “What do you think we should do next?” This shows you care and want to help.

Stay calm: If they get upset, give them space and try again later.

There are lots of places that can help you:

Al-Anon – Support for families and friends of people with alcohol problems: Visit the Al-Anon website for more information.

SMART Family & Friends – Help for loved ones of people with substance use: Visit the SMART Recovery website for more information.

Families Anonymous – Support for families affected by substance use: Visit the Families Anonymous website for more information, advice and guidance.

Addiction Family Support – Help for families affected by alcohol, drugs, or gambling: Visit the Addiction Family Support website for more information.

Mind – Advice on helping someone with drug or alcohol problems: Visit the Mind website for further support.